Our words are incredibly powerful

Growing up I was bullied a lot.

I was always the shortest kid in my class and generally the lightest too. Going into grade 6 I was 60 pounds and by the time I entered grade 9 I was a whopping 90 pounds. 

When I was nine years old I started taking martial arts as a means to physically defend myself, but I also learned that my words could also serve as a defense. 

By the time I entered high school I had developed a very sarcastic, biting, sense of humor. If anyone were to give me a hard time (even in jest), I’d often cut them down with either my humor or some other form of verbal sparring in an attempt to make them feel intellectually inferior.

The benefit of words (I found) was that you can use them in environments where physical violence is not considered acceptable so you’re physically safe while being able to confront others verbally. Over time I even begin to use the sarcastic humor I’d use to defend myself to poke fun at others too.

In recent years I’ve reflected back on how much some of the words I’ve said to people may have hurt them and I’ve learned how powerful words really are. I regret having said many of the things I did and I’m continually battling to try to think before I let things slip out of my mouth.

So today I write this to remind us all how incredibly powerful our words are and how much healing or hurt can from from the things we say.

When you speak, guard against hurtful words so that those around you will feel safe. And instead, speak life-giving words and encouragement to lift people up.

If you see someone on the street consider it an opportunity to brighten someones day with a simple hello. Your acknowledgement might be uplifting to someone feeling alone. Or message a friend or acquaintance and let them know you appreciate them.

When you focus on choosing words that lift people up instead of tearing people down, others will begin feel better about themselves, but in the end you’ll feel better also for having helped them.